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I have another question....this is to the BS..

feeds@yuku.com (hula) — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 13:55:37 GMT

Hi All
I know this is strange, but I still need to ask. My H is watching porn, I can view his history and I noticed that he's watching porn again. He use to watch porn alot while he was cheating...should I be concerned? Why does he do this? I felt so bad...I felt that I wasn't satisfying him. What do you think of this? I really think that watching porn by yourself is kinda nasty...well that's JMO.

Did anyone ever contact the OW?

feeds@yuku.com (hula) — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 09:36:18 GMT

Just woundering...any of the BS...have you ever contacted the OW to talk about the affair?

UPDATE & HI EVERYBODY!

feeds@yuku.com (motherof3) — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 11:30:38 GMT

Just thought I would drop in an give an update to anyone that was wondering.......

My H and I have not gone for visitation yet, (want to but are waiting on tax time!). We are trying to see the OC when the OW will agree to meet us at the park still...... I have come to the conclusion that she might be doing this on purpose, not agreeing to meet with us often, because she does not want us to build a realationship with the OC. Just my guess, and she still will not let my H bring her...

Order in, MM SMACKDOWN

feeds@yuku.com (checker08) — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 16:27:11 GMT

First of all, thanks for all the advise so far, it helps to know you are not alone. I got sole custody and my last name. He has to pay weekly support plus a tidy sum in arreage back to DOB. Birth Expenses, DNA test is his too. Order also states about his choice of NC. My state will not order life insurance. All in all, I'm satisfied. I am letting the medical history issue go. I am glad...

Looking for Marysway.

feeds@yuku.com (entwife) — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 20:00:30 GMT

Mary,

Have a question for you.

Discussion Topic - Are there times when it is more difficult for the OC

feeds@yuku.com (wblessed) — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 05:28:04 GMT

This morning someone called me and said the 19 year old OC had put all on her page that 'my dad's wife and her daughter hate me'. And I guess she has referred to either our 18 year old or 25 year old d or both as a step-sister. Something to the effect that she doesnt have any sisters only step sister or something like that. I personally did not see the page as it is private--which I am very glad my daughter cant see it (based on some of the stuff she put on there...

Question/Opinion

feeds@yuku.com (checker08) — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 16:55:18 GMT

MM has no interest in giving me a medical history for OC records. Spoke with Doc today and he said if he isn't worth fooling with, then don't worry about. OC will be monitored closely with medicines and shots. OC is normal and healthy. Should I get this court ordered or just drop it? Attorney told me this was unimportant. To me, why wouldn't you give the information?

Am I over reacting?

feeds@yuku.com (hula) — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 12:58:55 GMT

Hi All! I was wondering if I'm over reacting? First of all lots of updates...the court date Aug. 18 we have to go back again to finalize the paper work and the visitation. When the judge read the results, my OW looked a me and smiled~ We knew the child was was H so..that wasn't even up for debate, I guess she just wanted to rub it in...sure whatever...anyways...I still can't stands seeing her and it bothers me. Not sure when my h will finally see this oc or if he will. He...

update and missed this board

feeds@yuku.com (californiaowls) — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 15:48:56 GMT

Hi all I hope you remember me. I was on here alot but maybe didn't contribute much. I had my OC June 20 and June 24th he was airlifted to UCLA medical hospital and had surgery June 26th for intestinal malrotation. He spent a close to a month in the NICU before being allowed to come home. I still have contact with his father and my husband knows that I do. My husband is a great daddy to my little boy and couldn't love him any more if they had the same DNA. The father likes to say...

Update

feeds@yuku.com (checker08) — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 15:39:45 GMT

At the hearing, MM still insisted on NC. The judge looked straight at me. I just shook my head. He was not a happy man. Final order soon. We agreed on most things, like my last name. He doesn't want to pay the attorney fees. Poor Baby

What Would You Want People to Know?

feeds@yuku.com (otherchild) — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 12:39:42 GMT

Hi all,

I am going to be doing a radio talk show on the topic of OCs on Monday. I have no control over what i am asked or how long the interview lasts, but if I am able to share one thing that you would want people to know, what would that be? You will never be identified and no specifics of your situation will ever be shared. it would just be generalities.

thanks in advance for sharing

Newby here, Hello

feeds@yuku.com (checker08) — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 16:41:20 GMT

I recently came across this site and I hope I can get a few answers and maybe a few opinions. In my sitch, I am a single OW and have a son. I am getting ready for a hearing on Child Support/Custody. MM wants NC. This is his only biological son. He has COM that aren't his and not adopted. He claims BS does not know. Folks, I would like a few opinions on the last name of OC. Should he have Dad's with NC? What other things for the order should I consider? I would have no problem...

The Results are in...

feeds@yuku.com (hula) — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 07:05:56 GMT

Hello all
It's me Hula (kalena). We got the results of the DNA test and the oc is indeed my h. I knew it was his, but I guess I part of me hope it wasn't. This just confirms everything. I'm not having a good day. I'm about to break again...how can I do this???? This is added stress, we already have money problems and now this. Now my h has to pay cs $320+ $150 back payment cdn a month, this is crazy...plus his lawyer bill of $3000. for his the charge. How can I do...

hello all, update on my situation!!

feeds@yuku.com (betrayed) — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 01:20:12 GMT

Hello
I haven't posted in quite a while, in fact i removed all of my posts, the reason? ow found board and knew immediately it was me!! She contacted me and i will admit i was horrified at first because i felt my most private feeling, views and thoughts were right there and had been read by her.(and can be now!!). Anyway just wanted to let everyone know that horrible as this was it had an excellent outcome. We have re-established contact

Anyone who chose nc?

feeds@yuku.com (blindlemon520) — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 12:13:00 GMT

My h had oc with ow 14 years ago. He had a cs agreement drawn up and has paid cs for 14 years, but only saw the child
twice before stopping contact because ow was furious at him for the deception. Of course, it was ok for him to lie to me
but she apparently was above being lied to so......they both agreed to stay out of eachothers lives

We reconciled, moved our family away, went through counseling. I don't believe that our marriage
would have made it had he...

Exposed

feeds@yuku.com (wishful) — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 19:20:35 GMT

Long story short, MM's family now knows about OC and the A.
I'm sad about how it happened, but glad that OC is out in the open.
Whether or not the MM's BS is aware is yet to be seen.
MM wants NC.
Some of MM's family are excited about getting to know OC and want contact.

Solipsism

feeds@yuku.com (wblessed) — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 10:10:10 GMT

Calling Dr. Earthy or any others who have studied in the mental health field, is this considered a mental illness is it listed in the DSM (or whatever that acronym of that book is, lol) as a condition or is it just a characteristic of other conditions listed in the DSM, I looked for an online version of the DSM-13 -14? but couldnt find it anywhere.

Thanks in advance.

OW is upset...doesn't want my H to have contact with OC

feeds@yuku.com (hula) — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 08:10:08 GMT

My weekend was pretty eventful. We had to go to court on Thurs. for Child support ect....my H and the his ex OW agreed with the amount, but they disagreed with the access. Since my H is going to pay CS he wants to have contact and try to have a relationship with the OC, I personally hate this idea but I know this isn't the child's fault and I guess deep down..I want to hurt the OW because I know she doesn't want my H to see their child, but the judge said that when my H files...

General question to OW, just curious to know what you teach your children.

feeds@yuku.com (wblessed) — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 13:43:12 GMT

I have had the opportunity to observe first hand, the lack of courtesy, respect and manners, in the OC in my situation, recently, and it has made me wonder what do OW (generally) teach their children in this regard.

Yes, I know in my situation I am dealing with an extreme psycho OW, but this is a general question not really specific to my situation, just recent events in my situation have brought it to my mind as a question.

Specific behaviors I witnessed, and btw, I am...

Good news!

feeds@yuku.com (wblessed) — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 22:18:20 GMT

As of Friday, I am officially a great aunt! And it looks like I may be a grandma by the end of the week! My niece had her first child, a boy, on Friday!!! Mom and son are in good health!!